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Every time I answer a woman’s question about dealing with somebody who’s being creepy, there are the inevitable apologists.
Case in point: at my Kotaku column, a woman wrote in about a Nice Guy who wouldn’t leave her alone at a party. ” “He clearly wasn’t a threat, he was just socially awkward.” Of course, when people explained that she might have concerns for her physical safety, we got the On April 25th, Chris Plaskon, a junior at Jonathan Law High-School in Milford Connecticut, asked Meran Sanchez to go to the prom with him. So he grabbed her by the throat, pushed her down a flight of stairs and then stabbed her repeatedly in the face, chest and throat.
He was known as a class-clown as well as being a successful athlete; he was wide receiver on the high-school football team in the fall, playing baseball and running track and field in the spring.
Are you able to live with the knowledge that you were part of something that caused suffering of innocent parties?
Remember that no matter what he tells you about his wife, your dating a married a man is your choice not hers. No matter how you may justify the relationship in your own mind, you are still treading on someone else’s territory.
In less extreme – but no less threatening or disturbing – examples, women will tell you about the times they’ve been followed, yelled at, grabbed or even on because they didn’t want to talk to somebody. Women are socialized over and over again to be deferential to men; it’s “polite” for women to use indirect language, especially when dealing with men. Over and over again, women are socialized to not trust their instincts and ignore red flags… A friend of mine has given far too much head-space towards trying to understand her personal creeper’s side of things because she’s been taught it’s better to ignore her gut and give him the benefit of the doubt over and over again. because they’re even more afraid of disappointing him. Women are continually pressured to “give the guy a chance” and to understand that “he’s just a little awkward” or that “he’s a nice guy” and she had to be mistaken. An “I’d love to, but I’m busy that day”, for example, is a soft no.
Because she didn’t want to give him her phone number. Because she didn’t want to go home with him, to be touched, fondled, kissed or otherwise just did not want to accede to that individual’s demands of the moment. So is a “Maybe some other time.” So is pretending to misunderstand an offer, ignoring it entirely or even just what’s going on – they just don’t like the answer.
You may be labeled, scorned or even shunned by some in your community.