Dating a woman whos ex cheated
I ran into a friend a few days ago who told me a story that I thought was truly worth sharing, as it translates into great divorce advice.
The person they're dating now is not necessarily smarter, more attractive, or kinder than you. Comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, whether to wonder if they're better than you or to wonder if they're similar to you, will lead you down the wrong line of reasoning.
The fact that you broke up wasn't a failure on your part; things just didn't work out, and they might not work out with this new person either. People don't choose people based on checklists; each person will appeal to someone for a different reason. Your ex's new significant other is not your replacement.
Your ex moving on is not a testament to your inadequacy. Your relationship was unique and special and nothing can ever take away from that.
Not saying that cheating in any case is acceptable/excusable—maybe those people should have left first. It’s the ones who decided to cheat, who were still sleeping with the spouse–who didn’t even know there was a problem. My friend also asked, “Have you heard that Kellie Pickler song, ‘Best Days of Your Life? ” I hadn’t heard the song, so I looked it up and listened to it, and the message I got from it is something I think will help men and women whose spouse left them feel incredibly good!
Here are some of the lyrics: The bottom line is, if you are the first wife (or husband), your ex’s new spouse will always feel just a little bit second class. They will also always know in the back of their mind that they hurt an innocent person. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
However, how quickly you get into a relationship isn't a measure of how desirable you are. It's not necessarily the most attractive or likable people who get into relationships the most easily.