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When and if my boyfriend wants to explain my role in his life to his child, that's not really up to me.
It's a discussion he and I can have, but it's not my endeavor to pilot.
A lot of life is outside our control and dating someone with a child is a very effective reminder that no matter what, we can't always call the shots. As such, I waited until my boyfriend thought it would be OK to introduce me to his kid.
And even then, it's not like I leapt from a cake and shouted, "I AM YOUR NEW MOM!!!!!!!!!!! I'm still just a buddy who kicks it from time to time to join in on eating pizza or playing "balloon" or the occasional ride home from school.
It's kinda unbelievably cute to watch them nerd out on fatherhood together. Granted, I'm a fairly petite person and my boyfriend's child is seven.Nothing is a big deal unless it's an actual Big Deal.He has developed a wisdom to help him identify the difference between the two, and if you haven't already done the same, hanging with him long enough will be educational.Very early in this relationship, I suggested I help my boyfriend with an intense cleaning sesh of his kitchen.We had a lot of wine and played loud punk and soon it was gleaming. With a child and full-time job and other luxurious duties such as bathing oneself and staying fed (AND keeping the kid fed), cleaning falls to the wayside.
I was playing with the kid at a playground near my boyfriend's apartment and when an authority figure from the attached daycare came out to ask if we had permission to be there, I immediately turned to the child. I'm supposed to answer here." I've always been a touch afraid of authority but knew I had to handle the current situation. Conversely, it means you can't let jealousy get to you with exes.