Dating first time sleeping together
If you're using condoms, lube will prevent your vagina from being rubbed raw.If you're having trouble getting wet, lube can help with that, too.If you're nervous about sleeping with someone new, I feel you.In my limited experience, no matter how comfortable you are with your body, and no matter how considerate your sexual partners are, it can make you feel really vulnerable.I mean, you're bare-ass naked, something hilariously awkward is bound to happen before the sex is over, and even if you're just trying to have a casual, one-time hookup, sex with someone new still requires a certain level of trust that's not always easy to give.Fortunately, though, the past six months have taught me a few things about how to make sex with someone new awesome.And if you're having sex with a man and he's well-endowed (or you're using a large toy), lube is your savior.
It's relaxing, it should help you get wet, and unless your partner is a horrible kisser, it will only make things hotter.
I know you don't need me to stress the importance of using protection, but I am going to stress the importance of packing protection.
You should not rely on your partner to be the prepared one, because this is just as much your responsibility as it theirs.
Hopefully, deploying the above tips already has you feeling super relaxed.
In case they're not enough to chill you out, though, listen to your body and do whatever you need to do to chill out. I understand how hot a quickie can be, but when you're having sex with someone new, starting off slowly is usually the best bet.
Dirty underwear is bad for your vagina — it can make you itchy, or give you a rash or infection — and sometimes going commando just isn't an option. You may not end up needing a fresh pair of undies, but you definitely won't regret being prepared.