Text speak dating
At the end of the day, a call is just more special.
Taking the time to physically talk with significant other shows them that you care and are invested in the relationship.
If you see a conflict coming during a text conversation, immediately end the text and either call or meet up so that you can get things resolved.""I just received two questions from readers on my Ask free relationship advice forum, that I answered this morning.
Both had to do with texting triggering a relationship break up.
With texting, you only have words and a permanent record is left.
Besides, between spellcheck and Siri, there is lots of room for strange and unusual mistakes.""Calling, or face-to-face communication, is better than texting because there are nonverbal cues that are lost in texting," Carrie Sharpe, Communication Consultant and Speaker, who helps people strengthen their relationships by improving their communication skills, tells Bustle.
"Although texting is quicker and more convenient, it may create a stale and monotone dialect between partners.
Instead of learning how your significant other responds emotionally to certain comments or questions, you are left knowing what they are saying and missing how they feel.
We lose all of the very important information about a person's emotions that are communicated through things like tone of voice, and the more lengthy and complete style of communicating we use when speaking with someone. So much can be gained early on in a relationship by just speaking to someone on the phone rather than excessive texting, and many unnecessary problems can be minimized or completely avoided.""I have spent countless hours parsing through misinterpreted text messages between couples," Michel Horvat, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couple's therapy, tells Bustle.But it's not just women or singles who deal with text message misinterpretations, confusion, stress, and assumptions, plenty of people in relationships get caught up in decoding text messages, or worse, engage in text fights."This is one of the biggest relationship pitfalls that I hear about in my practice," Laura L.Ryan, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Certified Imago Therapist in Austin, Texas tells Bustle."The way I explain it to couples is that most intimate to least intimate communication ranks like this: 1) Face-to-face conversation, 2) Face Time, 3) Written letter, 4) Email, 5) Instant message or text."But texting is just so convenient, right?Another reader on my forum initiated “the talk” about the status of an eight-month relationship with her boyfriend, via text. She wrote asking if it was over, wanting to get him back.In both these cases, calling and talking to each other in real time, or better, talking in person, is much better than texting and these two relationships might not have failed if they hadn’t relied on reactive texting to communicate.""Especially in new relationships, it is essential that you maximize the opportunities to not only build that intimacy, but also to avoid any situations that might prohibit it," Tyler Turk, CEO of Crated With Love, a monthly subscription box for date night, tells Bustle.